The Art of Saying “No”: Protecting Your Goals Without Losing Your Humanity

How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?

 
As I get older, I begin to realize more and more the importance of setting boundaries. We have a responsibility to ourselves to achieve our goals and live up to our full potential. Let’s be honest—the average human lifetime is too short to waste on things that don’t add meaning and satisfaction to our lives. Every day, we must say ‘no’ to distractions that pull us away from our purpose and peace of mind. Every ‘yes’ to something that doesn’t align with our goals is a theft of time—time we’ll never get back. 



But let’s be real: a purely selfish goal can also be a detractor. We are, after all, social creatures. Collaboration and reciprocity are woven into the fabric of what it means to be human. Sometimes, we must sacrifice a bit of individual ambition for the bigger picture—for communal upliftment, for relationships that matter, for causes greater than ourselves. 

The balance between ‘yes’ and ‘no’ must rest on the sweet spot where self-interest and community intersect. The key is to surround yourself with people who support your goals and believe in you—not people you simply use to achieve them, but those who give you their trust and encouragement. These are the people who multiply your ability to become more, to achieve more. When there is reciprocity, sometimes a ‘no’ to one thing is a ‘yes’ to something far greater. 

Stay focused on your goals. Stay connected to kindness, to those who lift you as you lift them. In that balance, you will find the path to your fullest potential. 

So, how often do you say “no” to the things that interfere with your goals? And more importantly—are your “no’s” protecting the right things?

~Time, the Great Architect’s Veil ~

How do you waste the most time every day?


Time, the universe’s persistent nudge forward, acts as the great architect’s means of obscuring our vision. It’s an eternal, unlimited resource, yet our earthly consciousness confines us to a single moment. We’ve built our own prison by refusing to see the everlasting present.


We waste time fretting about a nonexistent future and a phantom-like past. We meticulously plan for the unpredictable and endlessly reminisce about the unchangeable. Trapped in this relentless straitjacket, our perception slowly suffocates our spirit.
But what if we could reshape our perspective? Imagine the future as a canvas of endless, comforting possibilities. Wouldn’t this magical viewpoint shatter the time prison’s walls?


Don’t waste time embrace the Eternal Now!


Fully present, free from distractions, we can be our authentic selves. No more, no less. In the present moment, we can fluidly shape our past and future experiences, like a magic cloak seamlessly flowing around our essence.


From this place of pure being, our true, eternal selves emerge, masters of our own destinies. In the quiet of the moment, let’s not waste time nurturing the blindness of our imprisoned egos. Instead, let’s celebrate the true, eternal self that speaks into this very moment.


© Jurgens Pieterse. All rights reserved. 2024

The Present: A Tightrope Walk Between Yesterday’s Echoes and Tomorrow’s Dreams

Do you spend more time thinking about the future or the past? Why?

The Present: A Tightrope Walk Between Yesterday’s Echoes and Tomorrow’s Dreams



Ah, the present moment, that elusive butterfly flitting between the tombstones of the past and the shimmering mirage of the future. Some say it’s a fleeting wisp, best savored with a mindfulness so intense it borders on the monastic. Others, with a wink and a sigh, declare it a playground for impulsive whims, a canvas splattered with the vibrant hues of reckless abandon. But what if the truth is far more intriguing? What if the present isn’t just a single note, but a grand symphony, where past and future weave their melodies in intricate counterpoint?

Karma, the echo of our yesterdays, clings to us like a forgotten melody. It whispers of choices made, paths taken, and consequences still to be faced. But is it a shackle, a weight that binds us to the failures of our past? Or is it a fire, a crucible that tempers our spirit, forging resilience and wisdom? Perhaps it’s both, a bitter pill that, when swallowed with courage, becomes the elixir of growth.

Then there’s Garma, the siren song of destiny, beckoning us towards the horizon, promising a future painted with the colors of our dreams. It’s the whisper of potential, the thrill of the unknown, the intoxicating taste of victory yet to be claimed. But beware, for Garma can be a fickle mistress, her promises laced with quicksand and mirage.

So, where does the present stand amidst this dance of ghosts and phantoms? Is it a mere spectator, caught in the crosshairs of yesterday’s regrets and tomorrow’s anxieties? No, the present is the tightrope walker, balancing on the fragile line between memory and anticipation. It’s the conductor, orchestrating the clamor of past and future into a harmonious whole.

But moderation, like a well-placed spice, is the key to this delicate act. Dwell too long on the past, and you risk turning it into a museum of regrets, its dusty exhibits suffocating the present’s breath. Gaze too fixedly at the future, and the present becomes a blur, its rich tapestry reduced to a fleeting glimpse.

No, the present demands a different dance. Let the past be the engine, its lessons fueling your actions. Let the future be the compass, its aspirations guiding your direction. And in the space between, in the here and now, let your creativity bloom, your courage roar, and your spirit soar.

So, dear friend, as you navigate this tightrope of time, remember: the present is not a singular note, but a symphony. Embrace the echoes of yesterday, listen to the whispers of tomorrow, and dance with all your might in the heart-stopping beauty of now.

© Jurgens Pieterse. All rights reserved, 2024.

~ The Clock is Ticking: A Reflection on Time and Purpose ~

Today, I don’t have anything specific in mind. However, I am always aware that time for a productive and meaningful life is short. I see past pictures on Facebook that seem like yesterday, and yet eight years have passed. I still don’t know how I will survive in seven years’ time. The challenges still seem insurmountable.

In life, it seems as if there has always been some sort of doom hanging over my head. However, I often choose to willfully ignore the voices of doom and focus on the present moment and the goodness of life. I can only look back with gratitude at the 57 years behind me. In spite of many blunders and failures, life has treated me well. A greater portion of this life will always be a blessing.

I still try to bring positive growth to my own life, my immediate family, friends and work environment. I have been part of many adventures that have served me well in enjoying life and living with enthusiasm. I would have loved more adventures, but what I have had already surpassed what many will never experience in a life time.

I am simply grateful for the people around me, my work, mobility, health, and moderate wealth. I am still obligated to take responsibility for all the blessings I have received by being a blessing to others. Many people still depend on me and look to me for support.

I have present-moment challenges and cares, but I must face them. I hope to have the strength, courage, and agility to manage these well as I move forward in life. For the latter part of my life, I want to conquer those things that still hang over my head. For now, in the moment, I want to be present with gratitude and confidence, and that would be enough.

© Jurgens Pieterse, 2023, All rights reserved.

Energy management

A life worth living is a life worth reflecting on. Having reflected on my past year, I realized that I have done far less in my exploration of poetry and art in the last year than what I aimed to do. I hope that I can be able to do everything I set for myself to do in this coming year. I hope sincerely that I will have the energy to act on all the different level of being. I have set objectives on a physical, mental, psychic and spiritual level. In accord with my life philosophy I am not pushing for a singular focused objective but rather to live a well-rounded life that consider all spheres of life and where personal life and engagement with others are balanced. Time and energy are the two constraints that must be optimally managed. I have not always managed to keep this balance. There is always some level of sacrifice that needs to be made. Often when one’s energy is low the strongest intent can be wasted. The starting point is healthy living for it is within the body that we gain the benefit of the energy we need to progress. Basic things like diet, drinking water and proper sleep is always key to the success of holistic living. We deny these only to our detriment and no lifestyle that does not consider these can be sustainable.  But energy is more than just the physical, a large portion of our energy comes from our thinking. It is easy to allow energy to waste away through bad thinking habits that remain caught up in negative cycles or that lacks enthusiasm. I focused on the virtue of enthusiasm last week and the one thing I realised  again that when we are interested in what we do, when we are enthused we have more energy. So even if our body is fit and well looked after we loose energy through our thinking processes. A core focus for me this year will be to conserve energy through right thinking rather than entertain thought processes that leak energy.  We must understand the body and its functioning as the foundation or fountain of our energy and internal resources … our other faculties does not generate energy but can either be a leak or the result of the application of energy. Following alchemical principles we can not even stop at our mental processes. We can also loose energy through our psychic body, especially if we allow our emotional self free reign unchecked by reason and completeness of joy. Our energy management is as important, if not more important, than time management. So often people focus on goals and objectives but fail in managing there energy and I am willing to waiver a stiff bet that the reason people fail is not a lack of intent but rather a lack of energy.  For many that do not live in accord to the basic requirements for a healthy body do not generate the right energy while others that do so allow energy to be wasted through leakage. The objective of energy management will be twofold in purpose. Firstly to generate energy and secondary to ensure the proper conditions to optimally use the energy created and continually refine our energy resources to finer substance. The higher we can lift the energy by purifying it the more potent that energy becomes. Energy on a physical level are compressed to a higher level and more pure energy on a mental plane and the even concentrated further on the psychic plane. Thus properly managed energy increases the work that can be done with that energy. The same energy on the physical level can not accomplish what can be achieved when it is concentrated on a mental level.  In the past years I have learned much about energy generation and conservation but this year my aim and focus will be on the refinement of my energy for higher order work.